Do you ever get upset, agitated or just nervous about anything in your life? It could be getting stuck in a traffic jam, a delayed flight, a missed deadline, waking up late, spam messages, or an emergency situation. If you said “no” your lying to yourself. WE ALL DO IT! It is very easy to get agitated, but it’s important to have some tools in your toolbox that can help you to remain calm in these situations. Remaining clam is necessary for both your health and your physical wellbeing. There is no point in getting upset about something that is out of your control.

So, how can I stay calm and what can I do? I’m so glad you asked :)

1. Understand that you are not going to get anywhere by being upset or angry.

The only thing that will make a difference to your situation is how you decide to deal with it. In order for you to deal with anything, you need to remain calm and focused. Otherwise, your going to stress yourself out even more.

Take getting stuck in traffic for instance.

Unless, you have one of those flying cars, there is absolutely nothing you can do about getting around the traffic condition.  One thing you can do is to inform the person you are supposed to meet that you are stuck in a traffic jam. Tune into the radio to get the updates or to just listen to some music. Also, you can do some pending work on your laptop if you have one while the traffic clears. (I don’t recommend this if your in the process driving however). If you just get upset at the situation and start spitting vulgarities or banging the steering, you are only going to hurt yourself by increasing your blood pressure and making yourself even more stressed. If you try weaving in and out of traffic lane, you are going to make the jam worse or even get into an accident! Remain calm, and realize that this situation is out of your control.

2. Have a backup plan for things that could go wrong.

Having a backup plan in place allows you to be more prepared which reduces your stress level. You will feel less angry and agitated if you know that there are other ways of getting things done. You tend to get upset and angry when you hit the dead end and don’t have a backup plan. Being prepared will help you keep calm. Have at least a plan B and C if not D, E, F, G and so on.

3. Take a deep breath.

If you have ever taken a deep breath you know what it can do for your mind! Everyone has. It fills your brain with oxygen and helps you feel refreshed. It helps to release your negative energy and fill them with neutral vibes. You will have noticed that you can focus more when you take a deep breath. Also considering doing deep breathing exercises. Take the simple example of smoking. People tend to change their breathing, which also makes them feel better, minus the effects of the tobacco.

4. Count to 100.

When you are clearly upset, it is easy for you to get into trouble or do things which you normally would not do. Counting helps you suppress the need to act instantly. It allows you time to get in focus again.

5. Get out and about and get some fresh air (Change your pattern).

Getting out has similar benefits as taking a deep breath and many more. When you leave your current place where you got upset, you tend to leave the problem behind as well. As you take a stroll outside, you will get a chance to focus on other things which helps you to calm down. When you return to the task, you will feel much relaxed and maybe with a new perspective about the task at hand itself. This helps you change your pattern and make you feel much better after.

6. Do your best and leave it be.

When you do your best, you can be rest assured you have done all you can. If anything goes wrong, learn from your mistakes, accept it and move on. You can do better next time. Knowing that you have done your best reduces the amount of stress on you. Accepting this makes sure that you are not agitated.

Being calm is very important and is a skill that can be learned with practice and repetition. Its a muscle you can develop. In fact, you can start being calm and reducing your stress level right now! It’s alright to get angry and mad sometimes. No one is perfect, but just don’t let it happen all the time. Follow the steps and advice given above and you will see the results almost instantly. Make sure you make a deliberate effort at first. As you practice, it will become second nature to you!

Do you have any tips that help you when your stressed?

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