Do you get upset, agitated or just nervous for things that are within or out of your control? It might be getting stuck in a traffic jam, a delayed flight, a missed deadline, waking up late, spam messages, or emergency situations. It is very easy to get agitated but it is also important to remain calm in such situations. Remaining calm is also necessary for both your health and your physical well-being.

So, how can I stay calm?

1. Understand that you are not going to get anywhere by being upset or angry. The only thing that will make a difference to your situation is how you decide to deal with it. Try to remain calm and focused on controlling the situation.

Take getting stuck in traffic for instance.

There is absolutely nothing you can do about the traffic condition. One thing you can do is to inform the person you are supposed to meet that you are stuck in a traffic jam. Tune into the radio to get the updates or to just listen to some music.  If you just get upset at the situation and start hitting the steering wheel, you are only harming yourself by increasing your blood pressure and making yourself even more stressed. If you try weaving in and out of traffic lane, you are going to make the jam worse or even get into an accident! Instead, take a few deep breaths and try to relax.

2. Have a backup plan for things that could go wrong. Having a backup plan in place allows you to be more prepared which reduces your stress level. You will feel less angry and agitated if you know that there are other ways of getting things done. You tend to get upset and angry when you hit a dead end and don’t have a backup plan. Being prepared will help you keep calm.

3. Take a deep breath. This might sounds simple, but it can go a long way. Think about the last time you took a deep breath and what it did for you.  It can fill your mind with oxygen and help you feel refreshed. It helps to release your negative energy and fill you with neutral vibes. You can focus more when you take a deep breath. Consider doing deep breathing exercises.

4. Count to 100. When you are clearly upset, it is easy to get into trouble or do things which you normally would not do. Counting helps you suppress the need to act instantly. It allows you time to get in focus again.

5. Get some fresh air. Getting out has the same benefits as taking a deep breath and many more. When you leave the place where you got upset, you tend to leave the problem behind as well. It also works as a great way to interrupt your pattern. As you take a stroll outside, you will get a chance to focus on other things which helps you to calm down. When you return to the task, you will feel much more relaxed and maybe have a new perspective in mind about the task at hand.

6. Do your best and leave it be. When you do your best, you can rest assured you have done all you can. If anything goes wrong, accept it, learn your lesson, and move on. Knowing that you have done your best reduces the amount of stress on you.

Being calm is very important and is a skill that can be learned with practice and repetition. In fact, you can start being calm and reducing your stress level right now! Follow the steps and advice given above and you will see the results instantly. Make sure you make a deliberate effort at first. As you practice, it will become second nature to you!


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